The intense fear of not doing enough muffles the joy of doing.
Whatever you achieve socially, financially, professionally is never enough because, filling emotional voids cannot occur through other individuals or, in this case, doing.
Your sense of self-worth, value, and talents are not embraced, even when someone tells you, "Great job!"
While there can be other causes, I mentioned in last week's newsletter that early developmental stress between Mother and baby can be a more common cause then you realize. If you tried to change the habit and failed, consider an inquiry into your early years.
The intense desire of the never enougher is hidden, unseen from the appeasing public, and hides behind a gracious smile and acts of talent and giving.
Whether realized or not, the internal narrative drives the never enougher into a cycle of turmoil. Here's Jolene's story:
Jolene described being a never enougher as "the worst form of self-abuse."
"During relaxing, quiet evenings at home, the voice in my head was bangin' loud. I would anxiously rant about what I could do, how I might be able to do something else that would be better or more helpful, what I was going to do next, and then I compared myself to others."
As I observed Jolene talk about being exhausted from too much doing, I noticed constrictions in voice and body. As we shifted the focus on body sensations of anxiety, she started crying.
Anxiety does not live in the mind but the body. We usually THINK we know what triggered the stress response. You won't believe this, but listening to what the mind says is the WORST place to access and evaluate a stress response. (more in this in upcoming newsletters)