When I was thirteen, my mother died suddenly. The next day, two things happened to make life normal again.
- My four siblings and I returned to school.
- My December Teen Magazine arrived in the mail.
We know our lives can change instantly, yet when sudden change occurs, we experience shock and confusion, not believing something like that could happen to us. To distract ourselves, to make life ok, we intuitively reach for the feeling of normalcy, tried-and-true familiarity - our routines.
We want to be at home involved in the same things and people we know and love. We want to go home, to our lives of yesterday.
Have you ever heard someone say we are trying to
keep things as normal as possible, especially for the children?
The value of, and the desire for, normalcy is a part of the brain's healing process and it is miraculous really. Let me explain.
First, the brain's primary job is to keep us alive.
The brain and body adapt to crises by making instant internal changes, ones designed to keep us alive and protect us in the aftermath. We might pass out, hear an explosion but not see it, forget pain, or find the help we need.